Premature ejaculation can really be a serious problem between active partners. Good sex is supposed to be one of the major things that spice up a marital relationship. But, it’s not funny at all when your partner who’s supposed to be all over you calling you names like ‘Sweetie’, ‘My king’, ‘Superman’, ‘My satisfier’, now ends up distancing herself from you. No, no, no, this is not where you need social distancing! You need CLOSE DISTANCING instead. 😂😂😂
In this solution-suggesting article, it will be very necessary to see what premature ejaculation really is, what causes it, its symptoms, and of course its solutions. After all, every problem has a solution!
What is premature ejaculation?
First, ejaculation is the release of sperm or semen from the penis. There’s nothing absolutely wrong with ejaculation. The problem here is the adjective ‘premature’. For the sake of easy reading, I’ll just use the acronym PE for premature ejaculation. Right?
According to Urologyhealth, PE “is when ejaculation happens sooner than a man or his partner would like during sex. Occasional PE is also known as rapid ejaculation, premature climax, or early ejaculation.” PE can really be disturbing if it makes sex less enjoyable and affects relationships adversely. A statistic carried out, according to Urologyhealth revealed that in the U.S., about 1 in every 3 men aged 18 to 59 years old have problems with PE.
- But, How Does Ejaculation Occur?
According to Mydr, ejaculation works out “when a man is sexually stimulated, friction on the glans penis and other stimuli send signals through the nervous system that result in ejaculation. At the moment of ejaculation the walls of the epididymis contract (squeeze) to create peristaltic waves that push sperm into the vas deferens.”
- What are the Possible Causes?
Now, let’s set this straight…the actual cause of PE is not known. However, PE is not unconnected with the following:
1. Serotonin level
Sexual health experts define serotonin as a natural substance manufactured by nerves. When the serotonin level in the brain is high, ejaculation is delayed and this is okay. But if the serotonin level is low, it can lead to PE.
Is there any connection between serotonin and what you eat?
YES! Your sexual health has a lot to do with what you eat! According to Medica News Today, foods that contain essential amino acids known as tryptophan can help the body produce more serotonin. Such foods include salmon (very rich in omega-3 fatty acids), poultry (chicken breast, turkey, goose), eggs, spinach, seeds (e.g pumpkin seeds, walnuts), milk, nuts, and soy products.
2. Psychological Factors
At the root of PE could be mental health issues such as depression, guilt, fatigue, poor self-esteem, relationship problems, past memories of sexual abuse, and a false expectation about sexual performance.
According to Urologyhealth, premature ejaculation can happen at any age. They also assert that “aging is not a direct cause of PE, though aging does cause changes in erections and ejaculation.” In my own informed view, it also depends on how you take care of your health while growing up, especially what you take into your system. You don’t have to lose your sexual excitement because you are aging!
What are the Solutions to PE?
- Talk to your health care provider: You should actually feel very free to do this. Your health caregiver might have a combination of solutions for you after carrying out a proper diagnosis.
- Psychological Therapy: Urologyhealth defines therapy as a way to address the negative feelings and emotions that lead to problems with sexual relationships. Psychological therapy can be used as the only treatment, or it may be used alongside other remedies. Another thing is that therapy can help couples learn to become closer. Psychological therapy can fear, nervousness, stress, and more. It can also help your brain develop better sexual confidence and knowledge on how you can improve your partner’s satisfaction.
- Behavioural Therapy: This employs the use of exercises to help build the capacity to delay ejaculation. Its aim is to help you train your body to delay ejaculation. Some of these exercises include the squeeze method and the stop-start method. These methods are fine. However, they have limitations. Its solution may not last long and it also depends on the willingness of your spouse.
Let me quickly explain each of the methods.
The Squeeze Method
As you engage in foreplay, it’s important you as a man relax. Don’t rush. It doesn’t take time for a man to reach orgasm but it does take time for a woman, which is why you should spend ample time caressing her. As you do this, your penis will get harder and harder. Ahead of time, tell your spouse when you would want her to hold your penis very tight. This is the squeeze method and it is only done when you feel the sperm is coming. (You can also hold it tight yourself). As you caress your spouse’s body, if you ever feel the rush of the sperm, you or your spouse should squeeze the penis very firmly for a few seconds. That way, you can delay climax and better satisfy your spouse.
The Stop-Start Method
Urologyhealth describes this method thus: “Your partner stimulates your penis until just before ejaculation. Your partner then stops until the urge to climax lets up. As you regain control, you ask your partner to start stimulating your penis again. This process is repeated 3 times. You ejaculate on the fourth time. You repeat this method 3 times a week with your partner until you have gained more control.”
- Medical Therapy: As I earlier mentioned in this article, there’s no approved drug for PE treatment for now. However, there are a number of drugs and numbing creams or sprays that have been proven to delay ejaculation. You should consult your health care provider for a proper guide in using this.
One very key thing I want you to hold on to is that your lifestyle goes a long way to determining your sexual health. Also, you need to learn techniques that make sexual intercourse with your spouse enjoyable and exciting.
You can consider consulting the following books:
- Sex 101, by Clifford Penner.
- The Act of Marriage: the beauty of sexual love, by Tim & Beverly LaHaye
- Intended for Pleasure, by Ed Wheat
- Shameless: A Sexual Reformation, by Nadia Bolz-Weber
- 52 Ways to Have Fun, Fantastic Sex, by Clifford & Joyce Penner
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